I thought this part would be easier, less stressful. Jeff and I keep telling each other that searching for a new house should be fun. And sometimes it is.
We are staying with my sister Branka and brother-in-law Joe. We are very comfortable, and having gone through this arrangement before (they lived with us for two years,) we are used to each other’s habits and know each other’s foibles (although occasionally, the two of us sisters still cross swords.)
Still, Jeff and I are eager for a place of our own.
We are downsizing, that was the plan from the beginning and the central reason behind this entire enterprise. But space can be puzzling and the same number of square feet can feel large in one home and very confining in another.
So, we have been talking a lot about what is most important to our lifestyle.
With our children almost gone, we won’t need a large house, but we still need a house that they can come back to and visit. So, we need three bedrooms and a finished basement.
We need a house with enough space for a dinning table that will seat ten.
Both Jeff and I prefer an older home, with wooden floors and lots of charm. We don’t mind a house that needs work, a house with an old kitchen or bathrooms that need to be updated. Those kinds of improvements we can do. But we do want a house that is well built and structurally sound.
We want our new home to be surrounded by trees and have a private back yard. We plan to get a puppy (Jeff wants another Siberian Husky!)
Another important feature is the location. We hope to find a house on a quiet street but within walking distance of our downtown.
And, we need to stay within our budget.
Are we asking too much?
So far, we have seen a number of homes. Some have secluded back yards, but no mature trees in the front. Some have lovely wooden floors, but no space for a large dinning table. In fact, finding a house with space for a large dinning table has been a problem so far.
Last week we saw one house that we both liked. It had a fenced in back yard and was within walking distance of downtown. It was old and charming, had wooden floors throughout, spacious rooms, and a large finished basement. But it had two things going against it: it was located on a busy street and had no room for a large dinning table. So, we decided to keep looking.
Jeff and I seem to spend hours talking and comparing what is important to us in a home at this stage of our lives. I always knew that my husband and I had very similar tastes, but after thirty years of marriage this seems to be true even more. And that feels good. Looking for a house is about so much more than looking for a place to live. It is also about deciding on the lifestyle we want to pursue.
And that is worth being patient for. Looking slowly. Finding the place that feels just right.
A house on a quiet leafy street, with light filled windows and room for a large dinning table. I’ll let you know when we find it.